问HN：我觉得我不想再从事科技行业了？
我在科技行业作为软件工程师工作了很长一段时间，现在我意识到这让我感到痛苦。从表面上看，我似乎应该拥有一份非常成功的职业：高薪的远程工作，资深/员工级别，专业知识相对广泛但偏向后端，通常有不错的同事和经理等等。然而，实际上，我的情况却很糟糕！我在所有职位上的任期都相对较短，因为我总是选择那些我的经理或同事在我之前就开始辞职的工作；由于工作压力引发的健康问题，我的储蓄已经耗尽，因此我无法承担在工作之间长时间的空档；无论是合同工还是全职员工，我最终遇到的雇主似乎总是对工程提出几乎不可能的要求，破坏了团队的士气；还有很多其他问题。我看心理治疗师，也看了几位医生来处理我遇到的健康问题，但我觉得无论多少治疗和药物都无法解决根本问题。
我觉得自己是个失败者，因为我无法应对这份本应是最有特权的职业之一。如果我能接受50-60%的薪水削减，以换取减轻压力或更好的工作与生活平衡，我想我会毫不犹豫地接受，但我甚至不知道现在是否还有这样的工作。
我该如何摆脱这种状况？做软件工程师对我来说是否已经不再合适？
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I’ve been working in tech as a SWE for a good while now, and I’m realising it’s making me miserable. On paper I feel like I should have a very successful career: high-paid remote work, senior/staff level, reasonably-generalist with backend specialization, generally good coworkers / managers, and so on. But in reality, I’m doing terribly! I have relatively short tenure in all my roles, because I somehow keep picking jobs where my manager/coworkers start quitting before I do; my savings were drained by health issues caused by work stresses, so I can’t afford to take an extended period between jobs; employers I end up with, regardless of contract or FTE, always seem to end up making near-impossible demands of engineering that ruin the team’s morale; the list goes on. I see a therapist, I see a number of doctors for the health issues I’ve ended up with, but I feel like no amount of therapy + meds is going to fix the underlying issue.<p>I feel like I’m a failure for being unable to handle what should be one of the most-privileged careers that exists. If I could take a 50-60% pay cut to have a guarantee of reduced stress / better work-life balance, I think I would take it without much thought, but I don’t even know if these jobs exist at this point.<p>How do I get out of this situation? Is being an SWE just not right for me anymore?